How can workplaces, go about creating the circumstances for human thriving?
Another part that's connected to it for me is that, you know, I have had the opportunity and great blessing to travel to other countries in the world, places that are called developing countries. And I've seen really fulfilled and joyous people, living with so much less. And then you know, but we've forgotten how to do that in this society where we have everything at the click or a touch of a finger. And I think COVID, our experience with the pandemic, is also helping us to wake up to questioning, "What do we need to create things - something different, something new. What will work for us as individuals and families and neighborhoods - and in our organizations?" And we have to come to that together.
For me, being the change is more than self-awareness and more than self-regulation, which are words I use a lot. It’s also about repairing and connecting. In any relationship, even in a relationship with yourself, you don't like yourself all the time, and you need to change your mind. Certainly with other people there are misunderstandings, and I've learned that one of the most important things, outside of managing myself, is to show that I care and that I want to listen and understand. That creates that connection. That's that softness that we started our discussion with. I feel that when I'm talking to somebody, and even if it's just like, "How do you make your pasta at dinner?" You know, it's like you can't just go and tell somebody the right way to do it. You have to understand where they're coming from; what their thought process is. And then decide "Do I want to add to this or not?" And when those mistakes are made, and you move a little bit too fast, or are in that reactive brain - Oh, you can make up for that! You can go back if you can tap into that soft place inside you. Just as, you know, as you were talking about earlier, "I'm a human being, and I just want to apologize. I didn't mean to come across so aggressively."
I think that is part of being the change - is that we have to constantly change. We can't have patterns that work because we are teachers and know the way it is. We have to be able to tap into that place, and feel fluid and responsive. But really show that we care and we want to listen and learn.
Our being disposable has been a conditioning for people with ancestry in Europe. It really comes out of Vikings and plague. The experience of the Vikings would come in and burn the ships and they tell whoever's town they took over, "We've taken over. Your culture doesn't matter - you are going to be us and we're going to steal your culture. It's now going to be ours." So this kind of being stripped away - that it was okay for people to take. And every group of people on the planet has had that experience, in one way or another because of war.
Then the plague, what it does in Europe and also in Asia, (people forget that the plague really did start in Asia) but I mean when you wake up and everybody in your town is gone, and you're the only one left and you are like 11 years old and you don't understand about microbiology. Right there, you are locked into believing, "Well that was supposed to happen, so I must be the good one and I'm ordained." That begins this whole dominance system and mentality that we are still grappling with today.
This belief in people being disposable. It's reflected in so many ways in Western culture and of course it's eked into, well, I don’t call them developing countries, I call them the ancient countries, the wisdom countries. As Noor says, where people have access to their spiritual intelligence, and they're not inundated by material things to the degree that way we are. ….
To be on a track to Divinity you have to really get that you're here for a purpose. That you have a sacred contract. That overrides the needs of the economy. The United States is actually the only country that was established for economic reasons. It wasn’t that somebody was nomadic and drifted into a beautiful lake and said, "We're going to set this up as our home." That's not what happened. We're very much into this economic survival thing. And so it's really hard for us to believe that you know we are divine.
To get to what is actually happening, Divinity is where we really have reverence for our life; we have reverence for all living creatures. We have reverence for each other. That we wouldn't think about putting people into prison to have them rot away. That we would just realize that the ACES took over and so we need to support them in their healing and growth and not re-traumatize them.
To me it's about choosing love over fear. Again, if those scientists around the table in Fukushima had that strengthened in them, you know more of them than not would have put up their hands and said, "No we can't do this here/ this is not the place for it/we can find an alternative/let's open up to that." But they wouldn't have done that. Or, the owners of that building in Florida would have said, "Yeah this is not good. Nine million dollars - that's nothing compared to what will happen if this building collapses and people lose their lives." They would have been able to do that, and so the ability to choose love over fear.
And again, it starts with mindfulness! It starts with wanting to be able to experience your life in a different way - to no longer be subjected to the belief that we're here to struggle and suffer. So, that's where I think we're headed into. That is the change I'm here for. And you know I'm very curious and excited to be alive at this time and to learn, you know, how we get closer to really understanding that we do come from Stardust. That we're here for a purpose.